7 Signs of an Intelligent and Strong Person

 

Dear Readers,

I would like to share an insight from my research:

If you possess these qualities, those who lose you may truly be missing someone valuable:

1. You have the courage to end a relationship without demanding an explanation once you recognize someone's true character.

2. You quickly notice changes in people's tone, behavior, mannerisms, and actions, yet you choose not to reveal that you have noticed.

3. When someone lies to you, you do not confront them immediately. Instead, you observe how far they are willing to carry the deception.

4. You do not raise your voice when faced with disrespect. Rather, your silence speaks louder and often leaves a more lasting impression.

5. You forgive, but you do not forget the lessons learned.

6. You remain kind-hearted until someone mistakes your kindness for weakness.

7. You do not allow others to become your weakness. To protect your peace of mind, you quietly remove yourself from situations that no longer serve you. Often, it is only then that people realize they can no longer take you for granted.

Thank you for reading.

Sincerely yours,

Benito L. Mabeza, CPA

Timeless Rules of Etiquette and Common Courtesy

Dear Readers,

Here are a few timeless rules of etiquette and common courtesy that are always worth remembering:

1. Limit your calls. If someone does not answer, avoid calling more than twice in a row. Assume they may be busy or unavailable.

2. Return borrowed items promptly. Whether it is money, an umbrella, a pen, or a lunch box, return borrowed items before the owner has to ask for them. This reflects integrity and respect.

3. Be considerate when hosted. If someone is treating you to a meal, avoid ordering the most expensive item on the menu.

4. Avoid intrusive questions. Refrain from asking questions such as, "Why aren't you married yet?", "Don't you have children?", or "Why haven't you bought a house?" People's personal choices are their own business.

5. Hold the door for others. Extend this simple courtesy regardless of gender, age, or status.

6. Take turns paying. If a friend pays for the taxi ride or meal today, offer to cover it the next time.

7. Respect different perspectives. What looks like a "6" from one side may appear as a "9" from another. Be open to other viewpoints.

8. Do not interrupt. Allow others to finish speaking before responding. Listen fully before sharing your thoughts.

9. Know when to stop teasing. If someone is uncomfortable with a joke, stop immediately and do not repeat it.

10. Express gratitude. Never underestimate the power of a sincere "thank you."

11. Praise publicly, correct privately. Celebrate achievements openly, but address concerns discreetly.

12. Avoid commenting on someone's weight. Instead, say, "You look great." If they wish to discuss changes in their appearance, let them bring up the subject.

13. Respect privacy on phones. If someone shows you a photo, look only at that photo and avoid scrolling through their device.

14. Respect medical privacy. If a colleague mentions a doctor's appointment, a simple "I hope everything is okay" is sufficient. Avoid probing for details.

15. Treat everyone with equal respect. Show the same courtesy to the custodian as you would to the CEO. Character is revealed by how we treat others.

16. Be present in conversations. Looking at your phone while someone is speaking to you can be disrespectful. Give them your full attention

17. Offer advice only when invited. Unsolicited advice is often unwelcome, regardless of good intentions.

18. Keep reunions comfortable. When reconnecting with someone after a long time, avoid asking about age, income, or relationship status unless they choose to share.

19. Mind your own business. If a matter does not concern you, resist the urge to interfere.

20. Maintain eye contact. When speaking face-to-face, remove your sunglasses. Eye contact conveys sincerity, confidence, and respect.

21. Be mindful of others' circumstances. Avoid boasting about wealth, success, or family achievements around those who may be facing challenges or loss.

22. Acknowledge thoughtful messages. A simple "Thank you for sharing" can mean a great deal to someone who has taken the time to help or inform you.

Appreciation, respect, and kindness remain some of the simplest yet most powerful ways to build meaningful relationships and foster goodwill.

Sincerely yours,

Benito L Mabeza, CPA

Call a Spade a Spade

Dear Readers,

I am writing to share a brief reflection for your consideration today.

There are times when honesty requires us to speak plainly and directly, even when the message may be uncomfortable or unpopular. In such situations, the best approach is often to call a spade a spade and communicate things exactly as they are, even if the truth is difficult for some people to hear.

Let our communication, feedback, and reviews reflect this standard of candor, directness, and transparency. By doing so, we can address challenges more effectively, foster accountability, and work together toward meaningful solutions.

Sincerely yours,

Benito L. Mabeza, CPA